When I was a kid, I used to love when my mother would read my sister and I stories. How these tales captured my imagination. I would sometimes picture myself in that story, usually as the hero, of course. But there were other more personal, real life stories that I remember as part of growing up. My Dad used to tell us stories of his youth, later to his regret sometimes, especially when I bought my first motor cycle and answered his concerns with “Well, YOU had one!” My grandparents, uncles, aunts and other family members had their stories too, and they remain as a legacy of who these people were and what they meant to me in my life. My grandfather fought in the First World War, and would regale us with tales of his exploits, especially the time when he was wounded. We would groan when the same old anecdotes would be repeated time and again … although I have to say I now wish I had paid more attention, or had captured him telling his story on a video or recorder. It is often with regret, all these years after his death that we realize that much …

In this season of giving, I have three gifts to offer for a grieving Christmas.   My first Gift is for YOU:   Maybe you are facing this Christmas season with dread:   Recognize that this Christmas is different. Plan Ahead. Decide what YOU want to do. Act rather than react. Re-examine your priorities Avoid “shoulds” and “oughts” Make the changes you think are best Take responsibility for your own happiness. Look after Yourself. Don’t abandon healthy habits Be compassionate with yourself if things are not perfect this year   The next Gift focuses on YOUR LOVED ONE:   They may be gone, but they will be very much on your mind:   Acknowledge your loved one’s presence Light a Memorial candle to remember them at this season Create a special tribute to your loved one. Involve children in this if you can Be honest about your feelings, and be sensitive to what they are trying to say to you Don’t be afraid to Relive your Memories Let the light of the years shine on the event rather than letting the event cast its shadow on the years   My third gift has to do with FAMILY AND FRIENDS:   …

I am happy to announce that my first E-BOOK, “First you Hurt, Then you Heal”, is now available at my website bookstore at http://griefjourney.com/product/first-you-hurt-then-you-heal-ebook-pdf at a special introductory price. In the book, I  outline a road map for the grief journey in a series of articles that take us through the process . We begin with a chapter entitled “I Didn’t Plan for This” that gives people an understanding of what they may experience in the early days after a loss. The book then goes on to give us an understanding of grief, some insights into various situations of loss, and some strategies to help us work through the process. This book will be a helpful resource for those who are going through a grief process as well as containing much relevant and practical information for those who would like to know what they can say and how they can help someone who has experienced a significant loss. It will also serve as a basic knowledge and layman’s guide for those in the helping professions such as nurses, teachers, funeral directors and those who seek to support grieving people, young and old, through their work. “First you Hurt, Then you Heal” provides …

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